is a thoughtful and encouraging love letter to new mothers from an expert caregiver and compassionate friend. Warm and wise, this book is a feminist guide to help new mothers-to-be—and their partners—truly enjoy the beautiful life-changing experience of becoming parents. Whether reading in small sips or large gulps, this tender manual is the perfect read for an expectant parent, bringing comfort, insight, and humor with each of its twenty-six alphabetical chapters.

ILANA STANGER-ROSS is a Registered Midwife

and novelist based in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada. Originally from Brooklyn, New York, she received a BA at Barnard College; an MA in Fiction at Temple University, where she held their University Fellowship; and a Bachelors in Midwifery from the University of British Columbia in Vancouver. She is the author of the novel Sima’s Undergarments for Women.


Photograph by Rob Lovett




"More delicate and refined than the silkiest of nighties."

—Entertainment Weekly

A heartwarming tale of an unlikely friendship amid love, loss, and lingerie
In the basement of her Brooklyn apartment, Sima Goldner welcomes women
of all shapes and sizes with warmth, acceptance-and a bra that gives them the support and lift they need. But Sima, regretfully childless at sixty, and harboring
a secret that has embittered her marriage, can't seem to do the same for herself. Then Timna, a young Israeli with enviable cleavage, arrives in search of a demi-cup and stays on to become the shop's seamstress. As they laugh, gossip, and sell lingerie, Sima finds herself awakening to hope and the possibility of happiness in this beguiling story of New York's underground sisterhood, and one woman's second chance.


“As the attending physician at many hundreds of births, midwives were among my greatest teachers about the birthing process. Now, in this charming and inviting little book, midwife Ilana Stanger-Ross guides the reader through the multiple concerns and practical questions of pregnancy with eloquent simplicity, reassuring wisdom, clear vision and experience-based knowledge. I would happily give 'A Is For Advice' to every expectant woman and couple “

—Dr. Gabor Maté, author of Hold On To Your Kids:

Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers


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